Thursday, January 15, 2015

Is Happily Ever After Even Possible?

If you are a woman, you have without a doubt read the fairy tale stories about a princess marrying her prince and living happily ever after. But is that even practical in today's world?

Without a doubt, I believe it is!

I've been feeling a bit sorry for myself in the last 24 hours with my husband away from home on business and super busy at that. In fact, the only time he has had to connect with me, has been through a quick text or a late night phone call when his day is over.

I get jealous of those who have the luxury of having their husbands home every single night., Ladies who do, be thankful for it. I know you might not realize it but there are those of us that go to sleep night after night without our husbands by our sides. For some it's a short business trip. For others it may be long deployments that keep us apart. Yet for some, death has claimed their husband and they will have to find ways to get through the days and nights when they won't have him to come home to. So be thankful for what you have.

In fact that is what turned my attitude around. A fellow blogger has just walked the most difficult path I could imagine this last year when she lost her husband suddenly to cancer. She struggles with simply getting through hours at a time and wonders when it will ever get an easier. So while I may complain mine doesn't check in as often as I would like, at least I still get the opportunity to speak with him. I have NOTHING to complain about and for that I am ashamed at my actions. I'm sure if you ask her, she would take her husband on his worst day ever for just one more day to be with him.

We should all be a lot more thankful for the husbands we do have.

But I do believe that happily ever after is possible in a marriage. I've been doing a study with Greg Laurie on marriage lately and with God in your life and marriage, it's definitely possible.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it won't be without challenges, disagreements, fights and stresses that will test the integrity and strength of your marriage. It will happen. But for some, just because they no longer "feel" love for their spouse or they think things will be better without them, divorce becomes the way out. Instead of fighting to make it better, the opt for the easier solution.

Now there are times where biblically divorce is permitted, but even in some of those, God can heal it if BOTH are willing to submit to the obedience of God. We need to stop looking for the world's view on marriage and instead see it the way God designed it to be.

If both parties have Christ in their life, are believers in Jesus, are willing to submit to the authority of God and follow His laws that govern the responsibilities of a husband and a wife, I believe you can have that marriage made in heaven.

James Dobson once said, "Don't marry the person you can live with, marry the person you can't live without."

J.P. Getty was willing to give up all his wealth for one happy marriage.

Any marriage not built on the foundations of Jesus is like building it on sand. When the waves of life come crashing down, so will your marriage. It will begin to wash away bit by bit. When we get to the end of our lives and are facing our final days, we will only look back at three things in life: Faith, Family and Friends. But instead of waiting for those final days, why not deal with them now and make things the best they can be in each of those areas. That is the key to happiness, not more money, a bigger house or tons of things to stuff your home with.

If a marriage fails, it's the fault of the participants, not the institution.

Having a successful marriage requires a daily commitment and effort; never taking it for granted for one moment. With those ideas in tact, I honestly believe happily ever after is possible.

1 comment:

LV said...

Very well said. However, no matter how hard you try, there are no perfect marriages. As to the lady that lost her husband, It take time. Time makes a lot of difference. I lost mine in 1995.